When we first got married it seemed like 5 years was so far away. But here we are, after 5 years of marriage we have been through so much. Last year I wrote a few thoughts about marriage on our 4th anniversary. In it, I wrote about the major influences in our marriage: God, our family, friends, and church family. I then talked about how precious my wife is to me, and the type of godly husband I want to be for her.
I won’t repeat all of that stuff again (if you want to read it, follow the link above – it would actually mean a lot if you did read it and comment), because nothing has really changed (except for 1 thing which I’ll get to later). We are still devoted to serving our Lord Jesus Christ and living for God’s glory, we have an amazing family (on both sides), we have wonderful, supportive friends, and our love for each other has grown!
What I decided to do this year is to update you on a couple of the major changes that have taken place over the last year.
In October we decided that it was time to look for a new church. Our main criteria was a strong emphasis on the sufficiency and authority of scripture, leadership and members that stress holy living, meaningful fellowship, evangelistic, and close to our [desired] home.
We prayed for all of these things, but since it’s so hard to find even two of these things in the same church, we were willing to settle. However, early on in our search, we seemed to come across a church that had all of these things. We first visited in November, and decided to commit to it in December – it helped that they were having a new member class starting in January!
We have loved every minute of being there. There is really too much to say about the preaching, commitment to holy living, stimulating fellowship (including home groups), loving spirit, and evangelistic zeal of this congregation and the leadership, for this article. Just know that this has been a major change for us, and we love it!
Much of our new friendships have come out of our new church home. We have developed relationships with a lot of godly couples – something that was rare for us in the past – and we have met plenty of people who have become part of our lives. Normally, our lives are just too busy to spend time with other people on a regular basis.
To be honest, we are even more busy now (see below), but we have committed to building relationships. It’s good to know that we have people praying for us and willing to help us out when we need it.
Also, a lot of these “new friends” have children, so we get to have even more kids in our lives!!!
We have finally completed our move! I have written in the past about our move stopping us from working out, causing us to eat out more, and even helping us to save money on car insurance.
Well, the last piece of furniture is finally in. We still have to change our address with a number of places, unpack, set up all the rooms, and get back on a workout schedule.
The last few months have been so hectic, between looking for a new place (we are picky and frugal, so it was hard), traveling to a funeral in North Carolina, packing, and getting rid of lots of trash!
We are both very excited to be in our new place – having central air and a washer/dryer in the apartment helps – and once we get settled, we plan to have people over often!
No, I didn’t leave my university job, but my part time job has really taken off. As some of you know, I own KNS Financial LLC, which provides tax preparation and financial consulting services. I also write the “Faithful With A Few” blog on that site, as well as this one here. On top of that, I am a staff writer for 3 other sites. Before the move, I was putting between 40 and 50 hours a week into this “part time” business.
Maintaining my online presense has been the most time-consuming part of this work and it has become a full time job! Once we get settled, we plan to make major changes, and my wife will be helping me full time. Hopefully, that will mean that we get to spend more time working side-by-side, and our relationship will grow even stronger.
It should also allow us to become better at both monetizing the online side, and building curriculum and other materials for the offline side. By doing this, we will be able to pay off debt faster, and accomplish my goal of working full time from home!
photo by Zoha N
I have devoted a lot of time to working over this past year. By doing that, I have neglected to be the spiritual leader in my home that God has called me to be. Starting today, I want to commit to praying and reading scripture with my wife daily, talking about issues that are on our hearts, and having more fun!
Hopefully, I will be 100lbs lighter (I’m already part-way there), have a lot less debt, and be closer to God and my wife by this time next year (if God keeps us here that long)!
Oh, don’t forget to read my post from last year (the first link in this article)!
main photo by Digital Art
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